About the author

Who wrote this, and what does he want from you?

Robert F. Tilley Jr. is not a seminary professor, denominational official, or pastor. You should know that before weighing a book about Scripture. You should also know why he wrote it, what his own household looks like, and whether anything is being asked of you. After that, the argument has to stand or fall by the passages and sources it uses.

Here is the short version.

He lost his business, his house, and for a time the right to be his daughter’s father. At his lowest point, he slept on a beach in Sarasota. The night before a court hearing that could have taken his freedom, he knelt on a floor in Alaska and gave his life to God. He walked out of court free the next morning. Part One tells what happened before and after, including the parts that make him look bad.

He has now been married to Lori for ten years. She is a veterinarian, and for three years she worked beside him on this research every day. Her work and questions shaped the book throughout, and their daughter’s story closes it. They keep rescue dogs, he works in AI safety, and the family reads together at the kitchen table and keeps a sabbath.

What about his own marriage?

This is usually the next question, and it is fair. Robert and Lori are monogamous and are not planning to change that. Their marriage is not offered as proof of the book’s conclusion, and there is no unannounced change to their household behind the site.

Their position is to follow God wherever they believe He leads them and not to manufacture a change He has not asked of them. In the present, “We are not planning, pursuing, or preparing to add another marriage.”

Why are there no family photos here?

The family includes a minor, so this site does not publish family photographs, name the children, or share details that would identify where they live or work. There is another reason too. The argument should not depend on making the author into a personality people follow. Part Three tells the parts of their life that belong in the story, in Robert’s own words.

Part Three begins with Lori · coming soon →

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