Open your Bible firstThree quick checks

You know the Christian answer about marriage.Have you ever followedhow the Bible gets there?

Most of us were taught what the Bible says about marriage before we ever sat down and traced the argument for ourselves. So let’s start small. There are three familiar details you can check in a few minutes, followed by a marriage law that is almost never mentioned in the usual explanation. That law does not settle the question, but it gives us a reason to keep reading through Genesis, Jesus, Paul, and the rest of Scripture.

01It takes about five minutesCheck the three passages

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Leningrad Codex folio containing Exodus 21
Leningrad CodexExodus 21:10Open the passage
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    Three familiar Bible details

  2. 02

    One marriage law that is often left out

  3. 03

    Then Genesis, Jesus, and Paul

What is the first thing you want to know?

You may be wondering what these passages mean for a woman, or what they require of a man. Start with the question that is actually on your mind.

Both begin in the same place: Exodus 21:10

For her

This starts with the wife in Exodus 21, then looks carefully at the women in the household stories.
  • Check three Bible details that are easy to remember incorrectly
  • See what Exodus says a wife is owed
  • Listen to the women in the household stories
  • Take your hardest question straight to the passages
Read what the law says she is owed

For him

This starts with what a husband owes, then asks what his choices would cost everyone already in his care.
  • Start with what Scripture says a husband owes his wife
  • Think about what his choices would cost everyone in his care
  • Read Genesis, Jesus, and Paul before reaching a conclusion
  • Be honest about why this subject interests him
Read what Scripture asks of a husband

Where would you like to go from here?

You can read the passages, check the historical sources, look at the manuscripts, or go straight to the question that is bothering you. Each page links to the material it relies on.

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Read the passages

Exodus 21:10 describes a household that does not fit the sentence many of us learned. Read the law, then decide what it proves and what it leaves unanswered.

Read Exodus 21:10
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See how the teaching changed

Augustine made a distinction in 401 that many Christians have never heard. The history page follows 26 moments and 22 source records from the early church to today.

Read the history
Historical books and source volumes

The ancient world

Israel's neighbors wrote laws and contracts about the same kinds of households. Those documents do not interpret Scripture for us, but they do show which legal questions ancient people were asking.

Read the ancient records
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Look at the manuscripts

There are 8 manuscript images here. You can open a folio in deep zoom and compare the ancient wording with the claims made about it.

Open a manuscript
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Go straight to your question

The Questions page answers 24 concerns, including consent, abuse, Genesis, Jesus, and Paul. Start with the one already on your mind.

See the questions
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See the corrections

If you find a material error after the finished launch, I will post the old wording, the correction, and why it mattered.

Open the record

How I have tried to make the case fairly

Keep the passage in context

I will not build a conclusion from a sentence while ignoring the chapter around it.

Take as long as you need

There is no deadline, decision form, mailing list, or person waiting for your answer.

Hear the traditional case fairly

I will state it in terms that a pastor who holds it would recognize.

Know when I am making an inference

I will tell you when a conclusion goes beyond the words printed in a source.

Change my mind when the text requires it

If a passage does not support my conclusion, I will change the conclusion instead of forcing the passage.

Keep a public correction record

After the finished launch, material errors you report will be listed with the old wording and the reason for the change.

The book behind this work

Unblinded

Unblinded makes the full argument in 128,457 words across 18 chapters. The passages and sources are already available here. The full text is coming soon, free, with no account or list to join.